Its been a rough few days

The last few days have been very rough. Minsoo has a lot of anxiety and is not sleeping at all through the night which means we are not sleeping through the night.

Paul had to start work again today which was very challenging because Minsoo's primary attachment parent is Paul. He screamed and cried. He made due with me taking care of him today, but Minsoo was very sad all day.  Paul had to lock himself in the office, because if Minsoo saw him, the separation anxiety would start all over again. Minsoo did have a few naps today which was good and I went outside with him on my back (he loves piggy back) to expose him to daylight in hopes of getting his internal clock in this time zone. I also fed him a Korean sweet which is red bean candy that his foster mom gave him that I found out he LOVES. She must have known this would be a lifesaver because he was buttering up to me and wanting to sit on my lap just to have more. It  was really cute.

He was a little better in the afternoon after the naps and was at least slightly clingy to me. Then it was time for daddy to "come home" from work and Minsoo was very happy. All was well then as seen in the pictures below. Just these 30 minutes of seeing Minsoo laugh and giggle make the rough day not so bad :)

see the death grip with his left fist?

Below is a video of Minsoo's favorite activity, being lifted in the air by Paul being and on Paul's belly for a horse ride and a kiss.At the end of the video you can see he also has this thing with putting his finger in Paul's eye afterwords. ouch!

Minsoo would not let me pick him up after Paul came out of hiding, only daddy could pick him up.We went for a brief walk tonight to let him see the sun start to go down as part of the goal to adjust his internal time cock and when Paul tried to put him in the baby wearer Minsoo held on so tight to Paul he would not let go.He had a death grip that even Paul could not get him to let go of him and Minsoo even grabbed skin on Pauls chin as if it were material. Paul said it still hurts.

Hopefully tonight he will get at least a few hours of sleep. I feel bad for Paul though since he is the only one that can put him to sleep. We tried it with me last night and it did not go well.

Right now our primary focus is to keep hunkering down into the house to not expose anything new (faces, food, smells) so he can adjust since any new thing seems to bring him back a few steps in attaching.